It’s been some time since I last posted, mainly because a lot of things have been going on IRL – I’ve moved from freelancing back into agency work, and with my kidlet now in high school, time is tight in general. As a result of this, I’ve been spending much less time in game, and found myself quite burnt out late last year, to the point where I wasn’t really logging on much outside of raids, and even took a month-long break over December.
Jeez – was that the worst thing I could have ever done.
In my absence, the ‘special snowflakes’ lurking in our guild took over. Literally tried to cause a guild coup. We managed that for a time, but the behind-the-scenes lies and bullshit that continued throughout caused us to take a ‘sit back and wait’ approach, rather than buying into drama we had no time for.
We couldn’t believe how a group of ‘adults’ (read – most are 30+ at the very least) could do what they were doing, and knew people were being manipulated, so we just waited. There were screenshots of flat out lies sent around to other raiders via email, feelings were hurt for no good reason, and people were generally behaving like I was the enemy.
Funny thing was, I wasn’t even around for most of it, nor was I in any way involved. I was used as the whipping girl by a number of people who took issue with my burnout, which had unfortunately translated into me being cranky and over it on a number of occasions during raids, hence why I took a break from the game – I was sick and tired of the ongoing whinging from a number of people behind the scenes, and that was showing in my attitude.
They were also using it as an excuse to ‘be unhappy’. Reality is, you create your own happiness, so I was gobsmacked at the amount of ‘power’ I apparently have to fuck with people’s enjoyment of a game I love, and actually want to enjoy myself!
The result? Insidious is no longer progression raiding, and 6 of our core raiders left with our ‘second team’ over a period of weeks and joined a guild we took in last year to help them survive with our extras. Effectively, after almost 6 years of managing, running and maintaining Insidious, it’s all over, and we’re now a social guild of mainly alts with a few non-raiding mains.
Myself and four other guys made the decision to leave Nagrand, which has been my home since I started playing WoW, and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. I was literally crying when I was speaking with the guys about joining our new guild on Caelestrasz, but luckily for me, I already knew a number of them from when they were raiding on Nagrand, so they were nothing but supportive and understanding of my angst.
They knew all about our good reputation as a guild over a period of YEARS, and welcomed us with open arms. It’s hard to let something you’ve worked so hard to build go, and it’s even harder to let go when you know people are being cajoled and manipulated into leaving by some of the people we previously trusted 100%, but I think we’ve made the best decision for us.
So how did it all come about?
Effing WoD, and ‘mythic’ raiding.
As soon as the announcement was made about 20 man mythic raiding in WoD, a few people in our core team got all fired up about ‘switching up to 25s now so we have a good team for WoD’.
Errrrr – excuse me? WoD is HOW far away people?!
The leader of our ‘second team’ (I shall call him ‘Fucknuckle’ in the interests of storytelling) had originally wanted to join us to move up to 25 man raiding, but was denied that opportunity for both himself and his team based on his horrendous attitude towards the officers of Insidious and me (who recruited them, mind you) in particular. He started getting in people’s ears over Christmas/New Year and that’s where it all began. We came back to raiding to a lot of chatter about ‘we have to switch up or the guild will die’, and there was pressure to look at combining the two teams or joining other guilds to do so.
There was a slight problem with this, however.
Fucknuckle is a misogynistic, egotistical and downright nasty prick. He wanted to switch up to 25s desperately so ‘his team’ could be carried through content we’d already mastered – they didn’t even kill Garrosh N until 3 weeks ago for the first time, and they’ve been raiding MoP since release.
There had been early discussions on sharing experienced and lesser experienced raiders between teams, but our core team had zero interest in that, so we made the decision as an officer group to intentionally keep the teams separate, and recruit separately (that’s a whole other story I won’t go into here).
This essentially left Fucknuckle powerless in our guild, and cut off from any access to the main raid team. Hence the bullshit over Christmas, when a few combined runs were done and a ‘few’ people started talking about WoD, and he somehow managed to convince them his team was the better option for heroic raiding.
He even went to the effort of demanding a ‘change of leadership’ on our guild forums because we DARED to take a short break from the game over the holiday period, and approached people who are long-term real life friends, trying to poach them to his re-formed guild once they left. He and others were whispering them saying ‘you’ve been abandoned’, when our friends were fully aware of the entire situation, and found it endlessly amusing.
This from the ‘leader’ of a team who always started raids late, had people afk’ing constantly mid-raid, and couldn’t maintain a stable roster to save his life. No guild website, no paid voice server, no effort – wanted us to go to all the effort of recruiting for him, but wanted veto power over who was trialled in OUR guild.
Sounds appealing for successful heroic raiding, doesn’t it?
Well now he has all the ongoing pains in our arses (plus a few ‘friends’ who joined them to keep raiding), and it’s only a matter of time until the ‘special snowflakes’ start causing the same drama they’re well known for – people always revert to type once the honeymoon period is over. We wish them – well, something.
Special snowflakes are a pain in any officer’s ass.
There is no place for special snowflakes in a progression raiding guild – full stop. As soon as people start making demands as individuals rather than thinking of the team first and foremost, the slippery path to mutually-assured destruction is set.
We had a number of them, and they came and left and came back again like the guild was their own revolving door. They thought the grass was greener elsewhere, but overestimated their ability and were often benched in ‘more progressed guilds’ so begged to come back, time after time.
And I let them – I forgave them.
I’m a good person who cares for the FRIENDS I play with, so I forgive. And get kicked in the face. Good behaviour for a while, then straight back to the bullshit that being a shut-in recluse with nothing else in life than work and WoW creates.
When one person in particular got into cahoots with Fucknuckle, I knew the inevitable would happen. We WANTED it to happen – we were totally over the ongoing demands to ‘not take undergeared people’ or ‘not take people who are shit’ – people too easily forget that you NEED to give people chances, and often they surprise even the most elitist asshat with the work they do to improve. GOOD PEOPLE>EXPERIENCE any day.
What’s funny is…
There was always a back up plan.
As engaged and responsible officers, we always had a Plan B. That was to find a new home who could accommodate us as a group with the loyal people who stayed. A few of us had already had discussions with a number of guilds off-server about it, and we had a loose plan in mind, as well as a couple of options, though many meant moving to the Horde, and we weren’t particularly keen on that.
We weren’t going to divulge Plan B openly until we knew what would happen with our guild however, as we wanted it to survive if possible, but that wasn’t to be the case.
We’re now happily ensconced in a 25 man heroic raiding guild on Caelestrasz, and in the period of two weeks are already 7/14H, soon to be 9/14H.
That feels good.
I love not having any responsibility other than my own job as a melee, and the guild we’re in now have policies and rules that mirror our own in Insidious (the problem we had was people not respecting those rules, and often overtly flaunting them with no real repercussions). There’s an added bonus for us now of having a GM who genuinely believes a guild is NOT a democracy, and that is SO. REFRESHING.
On a sad and pathetic note however, ‘someone’ took it upon themselves to send this to our GM on Cael this week and promptly delete the toon…
We know who did it. My new GM thought it was hilarious, and sent it to me straight away with a ‘oooooh someone doesn’t like you’. Understandably, I was quite pissed about it, but was given the following sage advice from a friend,
“Don’t mud wrestle a pig, you just get filthy and the pig likes it.”
Well you know what, you coward? I’m not going to mud wrestle you, but…
You failed, and made a total dick of yourself to boot. Enough said, really.
From 3/14H to 7/14H in two weeks, with zero drama to deal with, and a team of like-minded people with no tolerance for egotistical asshattery. Pure win.